Beautiful verse always brings a tear to Aunt Alex’s eye. *sniff*
But remember, Cadets, conviction and determination only count if you mean it. A great life doesn’t fall on you and bring you peace and joy; you have to live it. So, walk away from toadcraft — and never look back.
WILL LADIES I’M A MAN AND LET ME TELL YOU I’M BEEN GOING THROUGH THE SAME GAMES AND I LIKE SO MANY OTHER COUPLES OR REALATIONSHIP I BEEN SUBJECTED TO THE SAME ABUSE WITH A PERSON I THOUGHT WAS A FRIEND AND MY EVERY THING SHE MIGHT NOT SEE IT LIKE THAT BECOUSE SHES HAVE A GREAT TIME WITH WHO EVER THE PERSON MIGHT BE.
We believe you. No need to yell.
Nine months ago all the chaos ended with him throwing me out. I found the books and this site. I did the work, struggled to heal and be strong. Nine months of rebuilding a life, trying to date and learning a lot. Nine years I spent with the toad… nine months away now…and then he called. He wants to apologise for being selfish…he wants me back…I am stronger now. It didn’t hurt much. I know I wont go back. I hung up. Thank you for the work you do. You save lives.
Love the pic and the verse. Made me laugh!
When you’re moving on feeling free https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvpeBPxyZAY
Thank you so much for this article, it saved me time!
Amen! A thought occurred to me the other day–a moment of clarity! The “N” is really, really, I mean REALLY messed up (A virtual volcano of inconsistency and contradictions in the blender of life). When Im sad, I can choose to focus on the loss of pretend guy, get angry at the betrayal, but in reality?…HE is the sad bundle of mess that can’t cope…HE is the one who needs to feed from the strong, to desperately emulate and mimic whatever source of supply is closest to feed his fragile ego. Truly, he has NO SELF, he never has, and he never will. But I DOOOOO. Thank you God, I DO! I know that I can move safely away from the schrapnel of the disorder and be normal again, at peace. But he can’t. Ever.
Aunt Alex you are brilliant.