OK, Friends, Aunt Alex has your back once again.
Now, is it or is it not the case that one of the more frustrating parts of dealing with narcissists is their complete and utter unreliability? Between their compulsive lying and their eagerness to shower the world (particularly your world) with their passive aggression, you can never count on these guys for anything — a promise, a task, plans for the evening, even a fair transaction. Well, Aunt Alex has the answer. You can get these things done, AND keep your narcissist!
See, the problem has been that you’re trying to work with JUST ONE GUY. There’s only so much one single emotionally crippled idiot can do. Are you following me, here? Yes — what you need is MORE NARCISSISTS. Say, about eight.
It’s brilliant. If you gather yourself about eight narcissists in your life, at any given time about four of them will be in jackass mode — either generally ignoring you and off flirting, or being enraged about something. Three will be in idiot mode, and will be completely misinterpreting everything out of your mouth, or “forgetting”, or “changing their mind”. And if you’re a math wizard like Aunt Alex, you’ll see that this leaves one of the eight who will be in “you” mode — sucking you in, grubbing for attention and praise and admiration. In other words, out of the eight, one will be available at any given moment for your needs.
So, the answer is to accumulate as many narcissists as possible into your life. When one lets you down at the moment, move down to the next one on your list. When they “break up” with you there’s no need to cross them off, because they’ll be back scrounging, lying and being an embarrassment soon enough; just skip over them. Eventually you’ll find one that will want to be your man of the hour, provided he thinks he’ll get tenfold in return.
What are you doing still sitting there? Go on out there and rustle up some more narcissists! Shoot for eight; more is better. To the cynical readers out there, I know what you’re thinking: You think Aunt Alex is just urging you to do this so you’ll keep even more narcissists occupied and help distract them away from the rest of us. Well, NO! I’m hurt! That’s not what this is about!
OK, yes it is. Thanks in advance.
I love this site! I have recently read all kinds of serious discussions about narcissism but laughing at the ridiculous and pathetic behaviour of Ns is perhaps the best way to finally rid oneself of the hurt and frustration they weave into your life. (Ironically it was his humour that attracted me to him in the first place so maybe I just like to laugh!)
I would love to forward this site to my ex-N … but that would be attention and he ain’t getting any more of that from me!
Thanks!
Thank you, again, for your refreshing reminder of the absurdity of life with a narcissist. I am a wreck from dealing with one and the thought of eight just makes me laugh. I have been waiting for a new post from you to get me through some of my darker days, and you certainly didn’t disappoint!
Just came across your blog for the first time having been dealt a horrible bad beat from my N. Your posts bring smiles and laughter to my face. Something that has been missing since my nightmare ended 2 weeks ago.
Thank you so much!! xx
You are just fabulous. I have to concur with Barbara, I have been devouring information about narcissism for the past couple of weeks, and as instructive as it is, for knowledge IS power, the perspective to be gained through humor, irony and a deft touch of sarcasm is as healing as anything else I’ve read. Laughter IS the best medicine, and I thank you for having given me a healthy dose!
Better to laugh than cry, I always say…unless you’re laughing TIL you cry! My N is such a joke. Sometimes I laugh at simply the fact that he must not be able to hear himself speak. Like he says words that are so ridiculous that they MUST sound like Charlie Brown parents talking in his own head!! LOL It’s hysterical. Well, it would be if it wasn’t so pathetically sad. So happy his delusional ramblings wont’ be my problem any more.
That’s the mistake I used to make. I had about that number in my life at any one time so at least one would be paying attention to me but then I realised that it would be better to alone than have my soul sucked dry by the narcissists in their shit moods. I realised that I only needed praise and admiration to compensate for the bullying and ignoring by the other narcissists. Far better to stay at home alone the night you get invited to a party where there are going to be people deliberately snubbing you even if there are other friendly people.
However people hanging around narcissists aren’t doing the rest of us a favour by keeping the narcissists away from us. They are feeding energy to the narcissist who then moves on to their next victims instead of letting them fizzle out.
Consider me now an avid follower of Aunt Alex!!! Since my official split (after being discarded for months, unaware of what it was of course, until finally being dumped a couple months ago) I too have been gobbling up all kinds of info on narcissism as was totally ignorant before & after the split, literally stumbled on it by pure fluke! (I’ve always believed in angels & even more so now!!) I’m not fully healed BUT this could’nt have come at a better time either….I have literally been laughing my arse off with all my belly reading your blogs, thankyou sooo much…It feels good!
Jeez, the things i’m identifying with through your blogs is uncanny & seriously, i’ve often feared how I’d be/feel when seeing the exN out in future social settings (unfortunately mutual friends) But now, I know i’d be randomely smiling to myself & combusting into spontaneous laughter…(well why not, no-one will suspect a thing & will just have me down for the psycho my ex made me out to be so it’s win win!!)
Thankyou soooo very much! xx
You wonderful Lady, you! Why hadn’t I thought of this? I’d absolutely LOVE about 18 narcs to ruin my every whim. I mean, it’s obvious I must LOVE abuse so this would be my idea of paradise! Only, of course I’d be cheating but then let’s see, aren’t I already just the biggest cheaty mccheaterson **** in the world anyhoo (my narc was good enough to tell me). So hey, why not actually do something that I’m accused of eh? Imagine it, 18 men not wanting to sleep with me, calling me names, screaming at my family, giving me sexual diseases, poking at my sanity, threatening to take my kids off me, lying about me to the law, gaslighting etc. Seriously, I’m so glad I’m a masochist, I’ve just died and gone to heaven! (joking girls, it sounds like pure hell, and NO, none of us are masochists. Just hand-grenade numbed by narcs. ). But I would like to put them all together in one room and watch them all sleep with then devalue, debase and finally kill each other. Surely they all can’t be number one!
