Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant.
Let’s start with a confession: Aunt Alex has never been a fan of touchy-feely, fuzzy-wuzzy talk. She thinks the power of positive thinking is useless without the power of positive doing, and she thinks affirmations are an OK first step, but they’re a waste of time without steps 2 through 20 which involve meaningful focus and changes. Visualization is cool, but visualizing a sandwich isn’t going to resolve your hunger.
Having said that, Aunt Alex and the rest of The Army absolutely, positively want you to love yourself. If you have narcissists in your life, Heaven knows your self-image has been pummeled to a pulp, and self-love has probably taken a back seat to the toad’s needs for a long time. So, the title of this book caught our attention.
Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant is a little pretentious, and the author is a little too self-congratulatory, and the book comes with some shaky testimonials and support. But at $2.99 for the Kindle version, it’s worth a look. Ravikant talks about self-love as a practice rather than an idea, which is spot on, but the part of the book that really got Aunt Alex nodding was the direct application to your daily life. If you’re wondering how to re-start loving yourself like you should, this book lays it out for you: One, understand that you absolutely deserve wonderful things, as does someone else who you might love, and two, ask yourself regularly: If I loved myself like I love my child, or my sister or brother, would I be doing this (whatever it is) right now? Would I be making a decision to start or stop this, right now?
To be more clear, the book points out that if you love yourself properly, and consistently, you won’t take any more shit or flack than you would allow to come through to your beloved son or daughter. This, for some people, can be mind-blowing: How often do we think words or behaviors are tolerable if they’re coming at us, but are wildly inappropriate if they’re directed at someone else? And why the HECK is that so?
If you loved yourself truly, what would you do in a given situation? What would you recommend to a person who you love, if it were her in your shoes?
This is pretty powerful, and, mixed in with the fluff, you’ll find enough quality points to redeem the rest of the book. You’ll read more about re-conditioning the thinking pathways, and correcting the toad thinking which mandates that you, and your needs, come last.
Four out of five Army stars. Recommended.